The Renegade Ref says They Are The Most Important People To You

It is easy to talk about the need to be a great communicator if you’re talking about club secretaries or players.  But the most important people on your team are your assistants. Do you ever consider how you speak to them?

Do you ensure that all of your communications with them are not only polite but also fun to have (for them) and easily understood?

Why is that?

BECAUSE

If it is the observer’s fault that you have refereed badly you have given control of your career to the observer!

If it is the secretary’s fault, you have given control of your career to the secretary!

Likewise if it is the assistants fault, you have given control of your career to the assistant!

TAKE BACK CONTROL

Take back control this season and take the blame for all of your bad performances, because when it goes well it is all you, so when it goes wrong it cannot be the assistants, the secretaries or the observer!

I am saying if the former is true – so the latter must be down to you and you alone.

If it is all down to you then if your assistants cause you challenges then you spoke to them wrongly! Normally this is boring them to tears and not being rude to them.

You bore them to tears with instructions that make you feel good rather than give them instructions designed to make them feel good.

How do I know this?

Because when I ask a referee do they listen to instructions when they are assistants they generally look down and shuffle their feet. They say they only listen to anything the referee does differently.

QUESTION: So how do you give instructions that get your assistants to listen to every last word of them?

ANSWER: You get them to give your instructions!

How?

You get them to give your instructions by asking them questions about the different aspects of the instructions and also by telling stories about things you liked and things you didn’t like.

Example following:

SPEAKING TO AR1: What is the most important thing to you as a referee when spotting offside offences?

SPEAKING TO BOTH: Right we will (hold our flag or stay in line or etc, etc, etc.) as AR1 says because that is important to us as a team.

SPEAKING TO AR2: What is the most important thing to you as a referee when dealing with offences?

SPEAKING TO BOTH: Right we will (hold our flag or stay in line or etc, etc, etc.) as AR2 says because that is equally as important to us as a team.

And if either of them hasn’t mentioned your most important thing say it now.

SPEAKING TO BOTH (As an example): Remember that between us we would rather be late and right than early and wrong when giving offsides!

I saw an assistant who flagged too early and it caused the referee immense problems protecting the assistant for the next five minutes.  How do I know that? I was the assistant who flagged too early.

INSTRUCTIONS

Two things to say about instructions: Always have a routine to follow and if you major on mass cons what does that say about your refereeing?

A good routine to follow is to go around the field of play: Start with admin, then go to the touchline (Throw-ins – hands and feet), then goal-line (goal kicks and corner kicks), then in-field (offsides & fouls), penalties and finally (very briefly) mass cons.

That way you will never be umming and arring when the secretary interrupts you because you will know what you’ve spoken about.

And to further illustrate this we are running a webinar about instructions very shortly which you will get told about. Currently I’m talking to the providers to ensure that you can logon to your PC, tablet or phone vey simply and can watch the PowerPoint and films easily and simply.

Why?

Because I don’t want you to blame me if it all goes wrong!

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